How to Reduce the Sexual Urges among Children (aged 10 and above) :
Did you notice some changes in your child physically or mentally, when he reached the age of puberty?
Observe Keenly!
Sexual desire is a kind of motivational state for any individual. It’s a general belief that it helps them to reinstate people’s mental and physical health. It’s normal to feel sexually aroused but it is leaving some adverse impact on the youth especially the children at elementary school and high-level. Most distressing internal experiences keep on triggering them easily.
In America, 1 out of every 10 children (aged 10–15) either have experienced sex or have a very strong sexual desire which is alarming. It is sometimes really frustrating to handle the drive for them. Sometimes those children need proper counseling because it can involve them in heinous crimes as well. Not only in America but this culture have been adopted in various parts of the world, in the name of liberty our youth is getting spoiled. The constant desire for sex may indicate a medical issue. You can’t repress the urges for long but you can avoid them. It’s Ok if you experience such desires but getting habitual of it or having it excessively is not healthy.
Why are sexual urges so strong?
Sexual urges occur because of physical, psychological, and socio-cultural demands. It involves the hormone level, age, interest, and activities. In adults, if the libido is increased he/she must look for a sex therapist because that might adversely impact the daily activities and life. Whereas, children have greater exposure to the internet nowadays, they discuss and search it accordingly. They get sex education in the school, in the name of “awareness of child abuse”. The children over 10 years especially get involved in this superficial stuff and name it as ‘love making’ which ruins their ingenuousness.
The parents must look after their children more at that stage and provide excessive counseling if required. Masturbation is not the solution for everything it may help for some time maybe but it can make you impotent as well. The child must get the support and adequate knowledge that sex is not the only thing in life. You can’t prove yourself a perfect woman or man losing your virginity. A man’s strength is not in his penis neither a woman can prove anything with her vagina.
How to Reduce Your Child’s Sexual Desire:
We can’t stop the disaster but can take measures to reduce the after-effects for our upcoming generations. So, here I’m going to discuss some effective measures to reduce sexual desires in children who have reached the age of puberty.
- Food Habits: The diet should be controlled and they should focus more on eating vegetables and pulses. Parents should observe their eating habits more closely.
- Know their Interest: The age and time your child is up to are quite dangerous, make them busy their routine should be set properly. Talk to them, find out about the likes and dislikes, and guide them about “do’s” and “don’t”.
- Emotional repression is proportional to an increase in sex drive: Never force or blackmail your child for anything. Provide all the resources they want. Don’t kill their innocence by discussing your problems with him because that might affect him psychologically and would push him for something odd.
- Give them space: Don’t get strict with them, love them. They need extra care at that age. Provide them enough space so they can decide for themselves under your supervision.
- Keep an eye on their activities and friends: You must keep on inquiring about their friends and the kind of activities they all get engaged into that will help you to guide your child accordingly.
- Engage them in physical exercises more: It is essential to engage the children in physical activities and exercise regularly. No matter either it’s yoga, meditation, karate, swimming, or anything else. These activities will help them remain calm and control their desires.
- Stay Friendly: Befriend your child spend more time with your work. Do not pressurize them by involving them in your business matters but live them being a child.
When digitalization and technologies have taken over the world, it’s quite difficult for a child not to get indulge in all the malicious activities. But with proper elderly guidance at home, schools, and colleges even they can limit and control their sexual desires and behaviors.
Islamic perspective related to the sexual urges:
What does Islam say about sexual urges?
According to Islam, sexual urges are something anyone can’t get rid of and every Muslim must refrain the illegal sexual acts which are “Haraam”. It’s a firm belief that fasting can also reduce sexual desire. And tell the believing women to lower the gaze (for looking and forbidden things, and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) [Al-noor 24:31].
Like many other parts of the world, in Muslim countries also the children have adapted to the socio-cultural of the west. Sex education in Islam protects the children from immorality and deviation like LGTB, deviant sex, and so on. Sex education according to the Islamic perspective and Holy Quran can reduce the rate of children aged 10 or above, having pregnancy, sexual deviation, and HIV infection. In Quran, it is stated that every child has sexual desires since birth. The child gets sexual maturity when he reaches the age of 10 nowadays. A child must get basic education from the parents, as they are responsible to provide sex education to their children from their childhood. It is necessary to instill the culture of shame in children and educate them that being sexually deviant is strictly considered “Haraam” (illegal).Holy Quran with translation must be taught to every child to know about controlling and limiting the urges that is only allowed in a Halal way.
